I've been called a people pleaser before; multiple times actually. Each time it feels like a knife if being driven through me. It hurts for people to think I just want to please them. Not because I don't want to make them happy, but because it makes everything I say sound shallow.
Calling me a people pleaser destroys everything that I'm trying to accomplish. I do try to please people because I can feel their displeasure as if it were my own. However, I will never just lie to make someone happy.
I am not a "people pleaser" and find it very offensive. I'm sure other INFJ types would agree. We meant the things we say because they come from our souls. Trying to avoid hurting others does not make us people pleasers; it means we are trying to avoid the negative feeling that will be inflicted on us.
-Sandra, an INFJ
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